Daily Inspiration: Let them be themselves

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Hello everyone!

Let me first share this Daily Inspiration with you.

Source: Inspirational Quotes from xaxor.com
I have just read Ms. Christine Berlosa-Babao's "Being Gay" article that received so many disappointing comments from netizens. So what made them criticize the article, Ms. Christine and her guest psychologist Dra. Camille Garcia?

The topic is "what should a parent do if the child shows early signs of being gay?". Dra. Garcia said that gayness comes at puberty stage. At this stage, there so many confusions going on. She further said that parents must teach their children about gender and that early signs of gayness must not be encouraged. 

That made me think now. Parents always want what is best for our children. So I understand most parents who wants their children to study first, marry a wealthy man, be successful, be a doctor or a lawyer, follow their parent's footstep, etc., etc.

But we sometimes missed a point and that is if our children like what we want them to be. Are your children really happy?

So what's my take on that controversial article? Dra. Garcia tackled a very sensitive issue that is. She forgot to consider what might the gay people might feel about addressing gayness as almost a disease that needs to be treated early. I think she just want to point out parents' responsibility on teaching our children with genders and other related issues. I understand her point of view as a child psychologist.

Okay, let's say you already discouraged your child but what if he is just hiding it inside. There are so many factors around and sometimes the more we discourage them, the more they are becoming curious about it. Gayness is not like a disease that can be cured at an early stage and most does not really manifest early but later on. It's not just the language used that is being offensive, it's the whole thinking. 

As a parent, I will be a hypocrite when I say it will be totally okay to have a gay son. I understand how society will look at me as a failure to discipline and raise my son. But one thing I know is that I love my son. I want him to be happy and enjoy life as much as I do. So no just "I want" for me. I will let him be what he wants to be.

Our children is not ours alone. They are gifts from God. God gave us those beautiful children to take care of, nurture, and let them be what they want to be. They will have their own life soon and let your love guide them through.

I want to hear your thoughts too.

Happy Wednesday!