You’re Marriage Matters to Your Children

Wednesday, August 8, 2018



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Children pick up on emotions even more than adults do. They will notice how you interact with your spouse. A stressful home environment leads to a stressed child. This will carry over to their school work and their relationships with other children. Your marriage will impact all aspects of their lives and obviously, yours. Let’s take a look at a few ways to improve your marriage.

Time with each other

This can be tough, especially if you have young children or school age kiddos. As parents, we get consumed with taking care of our kids. There is so much to do to keep our kids going. There are meals to prepare and endless snacks. Bathing them, doing their laundry, running around town to take them to school and practice. Being a parent will consume your entire day. It shouldn’t though. You and your spouse need time for just the two of you. Aim for 30 minutes each day, but 15 minutes will work. During this time do not talk about work or the kids. This is the time to reconnect with your spouse.

Teach Your Children to Respect Your Spouse

Your child learns behavior from you. They listen to the way you talk and act. If you are disrespectful to your spouse, your child will pick up on that. This can be a huge reason why a relationship can fail.

Imagine living in a house where multiple people are disrespectful to you. This will lead to low confidence and anger.

Remind your child of the important things that your spouse does by praising how hard they work or how nice they are. This will go a long way.

Be a Giver

In a relationship, there is always give and take. The best way to strengthen your relationship is to give. Give your time, give your energy, give your love.

Try to find ways to make your partner’s day better. If they are usually the one who tackles laundry, try doing a load or two for them. The same goes for dishes.

If they have a favorite food or dessert, trying making it for them as a small way to brighten their day. Try to find a way to go out of your way, your partner will notice the extra effort.

Expect Nothing, Absolutely Nothing

This goes hand in hand with being a giver. No matter how much extra you do for someone, do not assume or expect they will do it back. Hopefully, they do, but do not expect that they will.

This will only lead to disappointment. Even if your partner doesn't return the favor, it probably doesn't mean anything negative about the relationship. Your partner could have had a bad day or just not feeling well.

Keep the Bedroom Active and Exciting

So, everyone knows that bedroom activities are important. Its human nature. It needs to happen. That intimate time together helps you to reconnect with your partner. It is important to engage as a couple in a healthy sex life.

Don’t be afraid to spice things up a bit. Depending on your sex life, this can be anything from trying new positions, wearing new lingerie, or for same sex couples, trying one of the strap ons for couples.

No matter what you decide to do, make sure you are hitting the sheets regularly. When there are gaps in your sex life, it can kill your partner's confidence.

Even though most of these things your child will not know about, your child will pick up on small things. They will notice that your relationship is stronger and more positive. It has been proven that children are happier and thrive when their parents are happily married. It has also been proven that children stress less and have better coping skills when their parents have a better marriage.

It is important for children to see a healthy relationship. Hopefully, by adding some of these things into your relationship will not only improve your marriage, but also give your child a well rounded life.