Pahabol lang sa Valentine's Day...
Daddy and I have been married for almost 8 years, and been in a relationship for almost 13 years now. Our love story started from friendship more than 20 years ago. Ang tagal na ano? But even the fact that we started us friends and we have known each other that long, there are still struggles in our marriage. There was time that I almost gave up but still choose to hold on because I realized ours is worth fighting for.
Today, let me share these best marriage advice from unknown author. I have seen this post circulating on Facebook but only now that I got a chance to read, and I find it worth to share.
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Always
answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling and when possible, try to
keep your phone off when you’re together with your spouse.
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Make
time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the
“currency of relationships” so consistently invest time into your marriage.
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Surround
yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage and remove yourself
from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.
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Make laughter
the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy, and even in the hard
times, find reasons to laugh.
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In every
argument, remember that there won’t be a “winner” and a “loser.” You are
partners in everything so you’ll either win together or lose together. Work
together to find a solution.
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Remember
that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It’s
usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the
moments when the other feels weak.
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Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to
build a strong marriage, but it’s
nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it!
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Remember
that marriage isn’t 50-50, divorce is 50-50. Marriage has to be 100-100. It’s
not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they’ve
got!
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Give
your best to each other, not your leftovers after you’ve given your best to
everyone else.
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Learn from other people, but don’t feel the need to compare your
life or your marriage to anyone else’s. God’s plan for your life is masterfully
unique!
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Don’t put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your kids or
else you’ll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.
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Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of
intimacy.
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Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the
foundation of a strong marriage.
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When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness.
You should be quick to say, “I was
wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”
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When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness
instantly which will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be
rebuilt. You should be quick to say, “I
love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”
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Be
patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important that your
schedule.
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Model the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up
to be good husbands and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives.
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Be your spouse’s biggest encourager, not his/her biggest
critic. Be the one who wipes away their tears, not the one who causes them.
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Never talk badly about your spouse to other people or vent about
them online. Protect your spouse at all times and in all places.
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Always wear your wedding ring. It will remind you that you’re always
connected to your spouse and it will remind the rest of the world that you’re
off limits!
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Connect into a community of faith. A good church can make a world of
difference in your marriage and family.
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Pray together.
Every marriage is stronger
with God in the middle of it.
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When you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something
mean to your spouse, say nothing every time!
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Never consider divorce as an option. Remember that a “perfect
marriage” is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other!
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You may see us as a perfect couple but no, we are not and will never be because there's no perfect relationship naman. Sabi nga hindi lahat ng nakikita ay totoo at dapat paniwalaan. Every relationship has its hidden flaws. It's up to you if you want to bring it out in public or work it out in private, just between the two of you. Kaya huwag maiingit sa iba :) Instead of looking at others relationship, work on your own relationship to make it better and last until forever.
Always remember to be patient, be always there to listen and to be a bestfriend to our lifetime partner.
Happy Feb-ibig month!
