Wednesday, September 12, 2018

Four Ways You Can Enhance Your Mommy Experience

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Being a mom is both the best, and the hardest, job we’ll ever have. Sometimes it can overwhelm us just looking at our children, and realizing that we made these amazing little lives that come to us for guidance, love and the occasional Kool-Aid spill. The little moments in life that define what it means to be a mom are so central to our existence, that we can’t image our lives without them, and we often wonder if we’ll be able to hold it all together.

There’s always room for improvement (but don’t get us wrong: you’re nailing it already mom!), especially when it comes to our children. We want them to feel that they are loved, safe and, hardest of all, prepared for the day that they’ll leave us to make their own way in the world. To help enhance the experience of being a mom, and make the most of those precious moments, from their first words to their first car, let’s discuss four ways you can enhance the mommy experience, both for you and your little ones.

1.   Start Living a Healthier Lifestyle

We tend to be the most conscious about our figure in the months following pregnancy. We’ve gotten used to carrying around the extra weight, eating a few extra calories to help the baby’s development, and have had to cut way back on exercise. But, now that the baby’s here, we don’t have the excuse to carry those few extra pounds we did before, and much as we might wish otherwise, that baby weight won’t all go away on its own.

Once you’ve had a few months to recover from birth, or even if your children or all in their teens, you should consider starting to live a healthier lifestyle. A better diet, regular exercise and some time for mental recovery are all essential to a longer, fuller life, regardless of your age or gender This is particularly true for moms: by eating better and spending at least three days a week exercising, we can improve our mental state, give ourselves more energy to keep up with and play with our children, and fit into that pre-pregnancy dress we love so much!

Maybe even more importantly, though, is the example it sets for our children. Since we’re the first impression of the world that our children will encounter, we need to set a good one ladies, and living a healthy life is the perfect way to start. As they grow older, if we’ve set the example, our children will be far more likely to make good choices about their own health, and maintain good habits for a lifetime.

2.   Start a Mom’s Blog

As a mom, there’s no substitute for the love and support we get from our families and friends when raising our kids, and definitely nothing more important for staying sane! But when it comes to parenting, the more we can learn, and the more people we can lean on, the better.

Starting your own blog to document your mommy journey is a great way to connect with others, share experiences, and learn as you go. Through blogging, you’ll connect with countless other moms who are in the same stage you’re at in your parenting life, as well as older moms and grandmas who are there to listen to your worries and offer advice that helped them make it through. Blogging also offers us a place to post our pictures and memories that won’t ever be lost if there’s a fire, a flood, or through the wear and time of time. There’s also something wonderful about sharing the pride and joy our children give us with the world!

As if that weren’t enough, starting a blog is incredibly simple! You just need to determine your theme (a.k.a. What you’ll write about), register a domain name, get a basic design set (don’t worry - there’s plenty of pre-made templates and step-by-steps to help you), and presto! You’re now officially blogging!

3.   Strengthen the Bonds of Your Marriage

Remember earlier, when we said that you were your child’s first impression of the world around them, and they’ll be watching everything you do? That goes double for your marriage.

How you and your spouse interact has the potential impact how your children’s relationships with others will be for the rest of their lives, and how they’re feeling right now in their own homes. If you and your spouse are supportive, encouraging, and nurturing to one another, that will help your children feel safe and loved in turn; conversely, if your marriage is fraught with tension, disappointment, or even open resentment, your children will sense this uneasiness, and they’ll become distressed themselves.

Though it can seem contradictory, because you may need to sacrifice some of the time and attention you devote to your children, if you want to be a better example for your children, and establish your home as a place they want to be and feel safe in, give a renewed emphasis to your marriage.

4.   Do More Activities as a Family

Yeah, cause we have so much spare time as it is, right? I hear you, but listen to me ladies: when we look back, and especially when our kids do, we won’t remember those extra hours we spent putting the finishing touches on that business proposal, or that Saturday morning we spent tidying up the living room that wasn’t so dirty in the first place. What we will remember are the moments spent together, like when our children’s eyes lighting up the first time they saw the grand canyon, or when they jumped with delight the first time they saw a hibachi chef light fire to the grill!

Children thrive on feelings of attention and affection, and they want everyone to feel the same. With their innocence comes the desire for everyone to feel happy and fulfilled in what they’re doing, and this is especially true of their own families. By doing more family activities together, you’re not only creating memories you’ll cherish the rest of your lives, you’re giving your children the love and attention they need. This doesn’t mean you have to take a luxury vacation to the Bahamas once a year; you can go for walks together, have a family game night, or even do a home improvement project as a family.

The point is, whenever you can spend time together, doing whatever you can to come closer as a family, do it!

There’s no one right way to be a mom. Everyone is different, and everyone has their own schedule and lessons they want to impart to their children. Regardless of what your life is like, or what you’d like to be for you and your family, as moms, we can all benefit from a healthier life, a wider support circle, a stronger marriage, and more time spent with our families. I’m sure there are days you feel like you can’t hold it together, but trust me, you’re not alone, and you’ve got this mom. You’re going to be fine, and so will your children, because they’ll have you to show them how. 

Now, get after it mom!

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